Wash day routine

       This is a long overdue post but I am glad I am finally getting to it. I do not have very specific routine for my hair, I just try to give it what it needs. In this post I am going to cover my routine for when I just take out a protective style that I have had for at least 4 weeks. After taking out my protective style, I finger detangle my hair as much as I can. I really try to focus on those knotted edges. I focus on my edges while finger detangling because I do not want them to break a lot when I am detangling with a comb.

Freshly out of protective style

Debbie Downer

      A few months ago I moved from a "city" to a suburb. "City" because it wasn't center city but everything was close enough, public transport was beyond decent and the main city was very accessible. When I moved to the suburbs I wasn't too thrilled. I complained about how far things were from each other, not having a African market nearby and not having a lot to do around my new home. I was a DEBBIE DOWNER! I am usually not a negative person but my childhood traumatized my idea of the suburbs. So you see I lived in the suburbs of the suburbs growing up, talking to trees and stones was one of my forms of entertainment. We did not have electricity in my neighborhood for years. There was absolutely nothing to do! I hope you are having a clear understanding of why moving to the suburbs made me a Debbie. As a child that went through that I have always wanted to be a city girl or at least live close enough to the city.

Faux "Dead"Locks

      Ha the famous  faux dreadlocks, I have seen this hairstyle on so many people and I wanted to try it myself. I decided to do the yarn dreadlocks October 2015 because it was cheaper and I already had yarn at home. I braided 3 strands of my arm length yarn in my freshly blow dried hair and I wrapped another 3 strands on each braids. While I was doing this hair everything was going smoothly. It took me about 2 days to finish my whole head, of course I took lots of breaks! I cant remember exactly how many hours the whole process took.

The Process!

I part as neatly as I can and I section into little boxes.

Feeling pressured?

 DISCLOSURE: I am not an expert on sex; just a woman sharing bits & pieces of what she and some of her friends have learned in life. Feel free to email me if you have specific questions or want me to share your story on the blog. Don't be shy someone else might have gone through/is going through the same exact things you are going through. If you don't ask you will never know :)

   We all know the feeling of being in love or at least at one point in your life you have really liked someone of the opposite sex or same sex (no judgment here :) ). Things are going well with this supposed partner and you are feeling a little pressure to take things to the next step of sex. You are not sure if you are ready for this next step but you do not want to loose this person. Well let me just tell you right now that having sex with that person will not keep them around! Don't succumb to the pressure of doing the things you are not ready to do just to please someone else. You will regret it!!!! Do things on your own time and at your own pace. If that person cares about you he or she will wait for you.

       It is your body and you should have absolute control of when, how and who you want to share it with. Even if you are not a virgin who you share your body with still matters! For most people sex is not only physical (shout out to the very few that can have just physical  sex) it is very emotional. When you have sex with someone you are not only sharing your body, you are sharing you vulnerability as well. To be naked in front of someone else is a big deal! If you are choosing not to wait till marriage, you want to share your body with someone you know that even if it doesn't work out between you guys you won't regret it. If you are waiting till marriage I am guessing you are going to marry someone that you can be vulnerable with. With all this being said, pick your sexual partner wisely my friends.

My travel tote

      Composing this post makes me sad because I am ready for a vacation but guess who can't afford one right now? ME! * gathers all my emotions together *. My only consolation is that this broke life will be over one day. Life can't continue like this! Alright lets get to it....When I do travel, this is usually what I have in my tote. 


Wing It

       No you are not flying anywhere so you don't need actual wings. Funny joke? No! ok let me stop lol. Today we are talking about YouTube videos. We all watch YouTube tutorials when we are trying to find a new style for our hair.  The problem I have come to find with YouTube videos is that your hair never turns out exactly how you saw that chick on YouTube do hers. I have never let this bother me so you shouldn't let it stress you either.
      One of the beauty of natural hair is its versatility so I really do not understand why people want their hair to look exactly like what they see on social network and on YouTube. I have come up with a list of why I think YouTube videos do not give people the results they want.

crusty ass lips

      If they want to crown the Queen of dry lips I think I should be nominated lol. My lips are always dry! During the winter months if I forget to moisturize my lips before going to bed my GAHD! If this ever happens for couple of days in a row you don't want to wake up next to me lmao. I know my sister is sitting somewhere reading this post and laughing her butt off! She was the one that drew my attention to how chapped my lips always looked. After a few times of her mentioning it I started noticing it too. Obviously when I am going out I always moisturize my lips. The  problem is  mainly when I have been home for several hours or if I have been out of the house for a while. I am not too much of a girly girly so I sometimes forget to carry lip balm in my  purse therefore I cant freshen up. My sister bought me lip scrubs and they saved my lips! Thank you sissy!!!

The lip scrubs I am currently obsessing over (Pale pink is one of my chap sticks).

Maximizing your bantu knots

      If you are a "busy" (more like lazy) natural like me I am sure you are forever looking for a way to maximize your hair styles. Ain't nobody got time for styling hair every day! This is how I stretch out the life line of my bantu knots.

      I wear my bantu knots in its "natural" state for at least 4 days , sometimes a whole week. I just refresh it every other day/as needed with a mix of water, essential oil of choice & very little conditioner mixed in a spray bottle. Throw on pretty earrings and slight make up and you are good to go.

Feminine Wipes

      I was always afraid to use feminine wipes because I did not want to kill all the good bacteria in my girly area. As you may or may not know too much cleanliness of the vagina can throw off your ph level and that can cause all sort of problems e.g yeast infection. This does not mean you should not use feminine wipes.

You get what I did with this picture yeah? it qualifies as a picture pun don't you agree?

Braids / Twist care

      I had this post on my old Instagram page but since I deleted that page I thought I should recreate it where it most likely will stay forever.

Content in travel kit bags

     As promised in my easy way to pack post this are the items in my travel kit. Your travel kit might be slightly different from mine based on your needs.

 Bathroom Bag

  1. Sponge
  2. Body wash
  3. Body scrub
  4. Body lotion
  5. Shower cap
  6. Toothbrush & toothpaste
  7. Deodorant
  8. Cotton swabs & cotton balls
  9. Tampons, pads & panty liner
  10. Bra strap holder

Facial care routine on a weekly basis.

      Alright this post is not as deep as my daily routine post. My weekly routine mostly depends on how much time I have on the weekend and what my face has been through during the week. I have 2 masks I use for my face; the simple deep cleansing face mask or my Aztec clay mask which I mix myself.

1) Barely any make up week ( 90% of the time).

  • I wash my face with a foaming cleanser.
  • I apply the simple deep cleansing mask & I let it  sit for 15-30 minutes. If I am feeling fancy I put cold cucumbers on my eyelids.
  • I wash it off with cool water & pat dry with a face towel.
  • I apply micellar water with a cotton  ball and let it air dry for a few minutes & I follow up with either my day or night lotion.